One Important Thing We Can Do About Tender Age Shelters

Sadly, the American Dream is dead. — Donald Trump

Shaunta Grimes
3 min readJun 20, 2018

Photo by Rac Cr on Unsplash

It’s easier not to think about it. So much easier not to see.

Because thinking about it means imagining being in a situation so bad that my best choice is to try to sneak into a country that doesn’t want me as badly as the United States doesn’t want them.

With my children. My children who, no matter how poor I’ve been in the past, have never not been safe.

Thinking about it means imagining sending my children to a foreign country alone in the hopes that when they get there, they’ll be safer than they were with me.

Thinking about it means imagining what kind of horror show these people must be leaving behind. Fleeing situations worse than anything I’ve ever been touched by.

I honestly cannot fully imagine what would bring me to the decision to flee to Honduras or Mexico or truly anywhere and try to enter illegally if that’s the only way I could get in. And I have an excellent imagination.

Thinking about it means feeling my babies ripped from my arms. My babies arrested because I wanted to find them a safe place.

Babies put in facilities so awful that some assholes got together and come up with a euphamism.

Tender Age Shelters.

The other day we saw an ad in a movie theater (because I spend random afternoons watching movies, not trying to sneak my children across borders into hostile territory) for a hair product called ‘Compressed Micro Mist.’

Maybe the same spin doctor who tried to put a happy face on aerosol hairspray was hired to think of a new way to say ‘infant detention center.’

It’s easier not to look. To turn off the news. To not think about how frantic those parents must be, right this minute while I’m typing a blog post on my MacBook with my children safe.

How much damage is being caused to those children. The children who are not mine.

It’s so much easier not to wonder if this feeling of helplessness was what average people like me have felt during other times of large scale atrocity.

Shaunta Grimes

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